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Personal observations and thoughts inspired by time spent in a local coffee shop, turning everyday moments into deeper reflections.

  • Every Day, Not Just May: A Reflection on Mental Health Awareness

    Every Day, Not Just May: A Reflection on Mental Health Awareness

    Why We Need More Than a Month

    May is Mental Health Awareness Month. It’s a time when you’ll see posts, ribbons, infographics, and campaigns reminding us to check in on ourselves and others. And don’t get me wrong—that’s important. But mental health isn’t something we should only be aware of one month a year.

    It’s something we should acknowledge, support, and talk about every single day.

    My Mental Health Journey

    Mental health struggles don’t come with a calendar notification. They don’t wait until May to make themselves known. For some of us, they’re lifelong companions—sometimes silent, sometimes loud, sometimes manageable, sometimes utterly overwhelming.

    I’ve been living with anxiety and depression for as long as I can remember. But for years, I didn’t have a name for what I was feeling. I didn’t know that the heaviness, the racing thoughts, and the sudden and intense emotional dips weren’t just “personality quirks.” They were not something to tough out. I finally received the right diagnosis when I became an adult and sought professional help. More importantly, I got the right support. Medication and counseling made a world of difference for me. But even with treatment, mental health isn’t something that just gets “fixed.” It’s something I continue to manage, day by day.

    You Can’t Always See It

    Here’s the thing: you can’t always see it.

    People with mental health challenges often look “fine” on the outside. Smiling. Working. Cracking jokes. Showing up. We become masters of masking. We hide the pain, the fear, and the spiral. Society hasn’t always been kind to people who show those things. But just because someone looks okay doesn’t mean they are.

    Some days, I genuinely feel good. I feel steady, grounded, even joyful. Other days, something as small as a smell can affect me. A song or an old photo may send me down a dark tunnel I wasn’t expecting. It can take everything I have to claw my way back out.

    Coping Isn’t Always Healthy

    And let’s talk about coping mechanisms. I joke about my “coffee addiction”—and yes, my relationship with caffeine is a little… complicated. But beyond the laughs, I’ve also had a much more serious struggle with alcohol. For a while, I used it to cope. To numb. To silence the noise. But through therapy and intentional choices, I’ve worked hard to build a healthier relationship with alcohol. (Still working on the coffee one, though. Baby steps.)

    Why I’m Sharing This

    I’m not sharing this for pity. I’m sharing this because mental health is still so misunderstood, so stigmatized, and so often invisible. I want to be part of normalizing the conversation. Because the more we talk about it, the more we make space for people to feel less alone.

    So if you’re struggling right now—silently or not—please know you’re not alone. You matter. You deserve support. And there’s absolutely no shame in seeking help.

    Mental health awareness doesn’t end when May does.

    It’s an everyday thing. Let’s keep talking.

    Mental Health Resources

    If you or someone you love is struggling with mental health, please know that help is available. You are not alone.

    Emergency Help (24/7):

    • 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline: Call or text 988 or chat at 988lifeline.org Free, confidential support for people in emotional distress or crisis.
    • Crisis Text Line: Text HELLO to 741741 Trained crisis counselors available anytime, anywhere in the U.S.
    • National Domestic Violence Hotline: Call 1-800-799-7233 or text START to 88788 thehotline.org

    Support for Specific Communities:

    Ongoing Mental Health Support:

  • Out of My Mind and Back Into My Memories

    Out of My Mind and Back Into My Memories

    Why This Story Hit So Hard

    About a month ago I watched the movie Out of My Mind on Disney+. Afterward, I decided to go back and read the book. I’m so glad I did. You know what they say books are always better than the movies.

    Even though I saw the movie a month ago, Sharon Draper’s words brought back memories. I hadn’t expected those memories to resurface. They still ache a little, even years later.

    Before I go any further, I want to be clear. These are my thoughts, my feelings, and my recollections of what happened. Memory is slippery. Emotions can tint the edges. So take what I say with a grain of salt. Know that this is how it felt to me. Sometimes that’s the most honest thing a person can offer.

    Melody’s Story, and Mine

    In the story, Melody is a brilliant girl with cerebral palsy. She uses a communication device, has a sharp wit, and knows more than most people give her credit for. A highly emotional moment in the book occurs when her classmates are selected for a big trip to Washington, D.C.

    Melody is supposed to go too. But things don’t go as planned. Melody doesn’t get to go. Reading that part felt like looking in a mirror.

    The Trip I Didn’t Get to Take

    When I was in seventh grade, my school organized a class trip to Washington, D.C. just like Melody’s. I was excited. Nervous. Hopeful. I pictured myself standing in front of the Lincoln Memorial. I imagined exploring the Smithsonian. I saw myself laughing with my classmates in a hotel room late at night. I imagined the memories we’d make, the stories I’d have to tell. But then came the catch.

    The school told me I couldn’t go unless one of my parents, or another adult, came along as my personal aide. They said it was about ensuring my safety and meeting any personal needs I might have during the trip. But here’s the thing: by that age, I could dress, bathe, feed, and toilet myself without assistance. The only support I might’ve needed was help navigating long distances. Someone could push my wheelchair when my stamina ran low from all the sightseeing. It wasn’t really about safety.

    It was about discomfort. Their discomfort. They didn’t want to figure out how to include a disabled student. They weren’t willing to make accommodations. And they certainly didn’t offer to help cover the cost of bringing someone to support me. So their solution? Exclude me instead.

    Much like Melody in the story, I was deeply disappointed. But disappointment was nothing new to me. I’d grown used to it whether it came from friends, family, or the world at large. I rarely showed it, because by then, I had learned to hold it in. I knew expressing it wouldn’t change anything.

    Still, I remember one conversation vividly. One evening, I was riding in the car with my aunt. I told her how much I wanted to go on that trip. I don’t remember where we were headed, but I remember the weight of wanting so badly to be included. She even talked about trying to help cover the cost, or going with to aid me, to make it possible.

    But in the end, it just wasn’t possible. My parents couldn’t afford the added expense. So that was it. No Washington, D.C. No trip. No adventure. Just me, left behind at school while my peers made memories without me.

    My class explored the nation’s capital while I stayed behind. I sat in a classroom with the small group of students who didn’t go. I felt forgotten. Left out. It felt unfair. I had wanted that experience so badly. I wanted to be part of the stories they’d tell when they came home. I didn’t want to be the kid they left behind.

    Bitterness and Bucket Lists

    Even now, nearly 30 years later, it still leaves a slightly bitter taste in my mouth. I still haven’t made it to Washington, D.C. But it’s on my bucket list. When I finally get there, I’ll be standing tall. You better believe I’ll be giving a big, proud, proverbial middle finger to every staff member. This is for every teacher who once thought I didn’t belong. Because guess what? I made it anyway.

    Melody’s Story Is Our Story

    Reading Out of My Mind brought all of that back. Melody’s story isn’t just hers. It belongs to many of us. We have had to fight just to be included. Others take these things for granted. Her heartbreak is our heartbreak. But so is her strength, her wit, and her refusal to be underestimated.

    That’s the power of stories like this one. They don’t just show the world as it is they help us imagine the world as it should be.

    A World Where Everyone Belongs

    I believe in that world. One where we don’t put conditions on belonging. One where we assume competence instead of questioning it. One where disabled children aren’t left behind because adults decided their inclusion was too inconvenient or too expensive.

    If you haven’t read Out of My Mind, I encourage you to. Yes, it’s a work of fiction. However, it captures something deeply real. It portrays the inner life of a young person who is so often spoken about instead of spoken to. Melody’s voice may be artificial in the technical sense, but her story rings powerfully human.

    Let’s build a world where no one has to prove they deserve to be part of the story.

    Let’s listen.

    Let’s include.

    And let’s never stop imagining, and creating, a better way forward.

  • Somewhere Wet and Windy

    Somewhere Wet and Windy

    The Walk Begins

    This is your on-the-ground correspondent reporting live from the storm zone—also known as my neighborhood sidewalk.

    It all began innocently enough. I had just finished my coffee. I was strolling home with Surley, my loyal service dog. A light drizzle began to fall. No big deal. We’re Minnesotans. We’ve seen worse.

    A city street in Minneapolis with dark storm clouds rolling in, a USPS mailbox in the foreground.
    Earlier in the day—ominous clouds overhead, but still totally convinced I’d make it home dry.
    Spoiler: I did not.

    The Downpour + Tornado Siren

    But then—cue the dramatic music—the sky opened up. Torrential rain. We ducked under shelter. It let up. We continued. It poured again. We found more cover. The storm played with us like a cat with a string.

    And just when we were four blocks from home, the tornado siren wailed.

    Where was it located? Right on the very street we were walking. Rain pelted our faces. The wind howled. The siren blared as if it were auditioning for the lead role in a disaster film.

    Naturally, as the siren screamed, I started picturing The Wizard of Oz. But instead of Dorothy and Toto, it was Levi and Surley getting swept up and carried off to the land of Oz. I wasn’t wearing ruby slippers. However, I was absolutely ready to take down a witch with a soggy sock. I had some Midwestern passive aggression ready as well.

    The real star of this cinematic experience? Surley. Calm. Steady. Unbothered. For a dog who usually finds storms a bit spooky, he handled it like a seasoned storm chaser.

    I told him repeatedly how proud I was. He just powered through the wind and the rain. He glanced at me as if to say, “Chill, I’ve got this.”

    Coming Home

    We made it home drenched, slightly stunned, and still laughing.

    Surley celebrated with zoomies.

    I dried us off like we’d just crawled out of a creek. Which, in a way, we had.

    A yellow Labrador retriever lying on a carpet, still damp from the rain, resting with his eyes half-closed.
    Post-storm status: one brave boy, thoroughly toweled and dramatically resting on the living room floor.
    (Zoomies: complete. Dignity: mostly intact.)

    Your Turn

    Have you ever been caught in a surprise storm with your pet?
    Did they channel inner courage… or cartoon chaos?

    Tell me your best soggy, windy, or siren-filled story in the comments.

  • Where I Write: My Favorite Coffee Shops for Creativity and Caffeine

    I love sitting in local coffee shops to write. I’m fortunate to have so many great spots within walking distance of my home. Each spot has its own vibe. Each has a reason for becoming a favorite. Here are just a few that come to mind, in no particular order.

    Caribou Coffee on 11th & Nicollet Mall

    I’ve loved Caribou for as long as I can remember, even before I drank coffee myself. A longtime friend was once a VP at Caribou. They would occasionally leave coffee gifts on my aunts’ doorsteps. The brand has always felt familiar.

    What I love about this location is its convenience — just a few blocks from home. The huge windows flood the space with natural light, perfect for people-watching along the street and sidewalk. In the summer, I love sitting outside with a cool drink. If the patio is full, I wander across the street to Peavey Plaza and grab a bench.

    Caribou’s drinks are always my top pick. Their milk chocolate syrup is smoother than most, even compared to others on this list. My go-to drink depends on the weather. I choose a milk chocolate mocha in winter. In summer, I prefer a plain iced crafted press. Before they introduced the crafted press, I’d order an iced mocha without whip.

    Corner Coffee on 9th & Nicollet Mall

    This corner has seen many coffee shop incarnations. There has been a Starbucks, Dunn Bros, and a tea and matcha place. Now it’s Corner Coffee, and I couldn’t be happier. When it opened in spring 2024, I was eager to try it. I love discovering new places!

    The vibe here is cozy and inviting, and I always feel at home working on a project. My go-to drink is a latte, regardless of the season. As for food, it’s a toss-up between their pastries and the fruit pies they often stock.

    Starbucks in the IDS Crystal Court

    I don’t visit this Starbucks as much in the warmer months. It’s a perfect winter retreat since it’s connected to the downtown skyway system. There’s no need to brave the cold! One detail I really appreciate: they have a table clearly labeled for people with mobility aids like mine. In fact, I wrote about that in one of my very first blog posts.

    Mocha Momma’s Coffee on 3rd & Nicollet Mall

    This gem is tucked inside the central public library. I first discovered it when I went to pick up a library hold. Like many downtown spaces, it’s been home to different shops over the years. However, Mocha Momma’s has quickly become a favorite.

    The atmosphere feels personal and welcoming — it seems to be run by just one person, who greets everyone warmly. There’s a great variety of drinks (including affogato — vanilla ice cream drowned in espresso!), and the apple fritters are incredible.

    A funny moment: recently, I was so engrossed in writing that I didn’t hear the closing announcement. Thankfully, the owner kindly let me finish my thought before gently nudging me out.

    These coffee shops are where I can sit, relax, and dive into my latest writing project. I feel so lucky to have all these options nearby. However, I wish my wallet loved them as much as I do!

    Do you have a favorite coffee shop where you love to read, write, or just relax? I’m always looking for new spots to explore! Drop your recommendations in the comments. I’d love to hear about your favorite places to fuel your creativity. I’m also interested in where you satisfy your caffeine cravings.

  • Redrawing the Map

    Redrawing the Map

    This post grew out of a writing class assignment. We were asked to draw a map of my childhood neighborhood. Then we had to tell a story about it. What emerged was not a single story. It was an exploration of childhood, disability, and friendship. It also examined how we redraw our lives over time.

    When I was drawing the map for class, I realized how small my world was. We were supposed to share a story about our neighborhood. However, I didn’t have any that came to mind. At least, not in the way the assignment intended. What came to mind instead was pain and heartache.

    The sharp smell of pencil lead clung to my fingers as I traced the roads of my childhood. On the page, the map looked simple. Two gravel roads crossed like stitches. There was a handful of houses. The sagging fence line was where the horses would run and buck. But as I drew, the map whispered back something I hadn’t expected.

    The map was small.

    Not just in miles and landmarks, but in meaning. It made me realize how small and limited my world had been.

    I rarely left home. The only times I did leave were to go to school or church (at least until I got confirmed). Occasionally, I went to the theater, the skating rink, or a cousin’s house for a sleepover. Those trips stopped once we hit junior high. I really interacted with neighbors only when we rode horses around the section.

    Living in the country and having a disability made it difficult to have friends. The isolation wasn’t just about miles of gravel roads. It was about feeling cut off from the world of other kids. Even when classmates lived nearby, the distance between us felt bigger than geography. It was the distance of difference, of not quite fitting into their games, their rhythms, their conversations.

    I remember when I was in school, there were only a few places I could sit during lunch. We had long, picnic-style tables, and because of the wheelchair, I was limited to the ends. I didn’t want to be a burden to anyone. So, I’d often pick the same table. It was the one closest to the end of the cafeteria line. It became its own quiet ritual — not quite belonging, not quite invisible, always on the edge of things.

    Still, there were moments of connection that broke through.

    One afternoon in first or second grade, I played baseball in the yard of the twin girls. They lived down the other country road and were also in my grade. I sat on the grass to make it easier to get around because wheelchairs and lawns don’t mix well. I don’t remember much else from that day. I recall the sun on our backs. There was a quiet sense of belonging, even if only for a moment.

    I remember having a couple of my own friends over — both times because it was my birthday. The first time was in fifth grade when I “invited” the pastor’s son from church. He came over for a sleepover. I still shared a room with my sister then. That night, my mom decided it was time for my leg stretches. They usually forgot them but remembered at the worst moment. I was hopeful they’d skip it. But no. I lay there trying not to cry in front of my friend. My mom stretched my legs, sometimes painfully. He didn’t stay long the next morning. For my birthday, he gave me a black-and-white picture of a dragon to color in with markers. I think I colored it, though I don’t remember for sure.

    Then there was the classmate who lived next door for a while. We’d been friends since kindergarten. We were the kind of friends who came and went as their family moved away. Then they came back, and after a while, moved away again. When they came back briefly in eighth grade, I remember trying harder. I made a point to talk with them and to help. It was a small act of making amends. I pulled away in fifth grade because I thought they were “cramping my style.”

    The second birthday friend came when I was a senior in high school. We got out of school early one Friday. We wandered around downtown. This was a small thing to most people, but huge for me. I was so used to the school bus taking me straight home. We went to the Video Box. I rented my first R-rated movie because I was now eighteen. I think it was American Pie. My friend gave me a finger skateboard to assemble. It was a cool alternative. A real skateboard would’ve been too hard for me to use. I held onto it for years. Looking back, I realize he was probably one of the only “real” friends I had in high school.

    These two friends? I haven’t spoken to them in years. If you tracked them down and asked, they might not remember the details. But I do.

    Looking back, I see that while I often felt on the margins, I wasn’t as alone as I thought. Those small moments — a game of baseball, an awkward birthday sleepover, a walk downtown — were lifelines. They didn’t erase the loneliness, but they punctured it, leaving small but lasting marks. They taught me that connection doesn’t have to look like the movies or the friendships I envied. It can be quiet, brief, imperfect — and still matter.

    And as much as the map of my childhood was small, the map of my adult life is much broader. I have a small core group of friends. There are fewer than a dozen of them. But they are the kind of people who show up when it matters.

    When my last living grandma was dying of cancer, they were there. They helped with rides and supported me during the funeral. When my first service dog, Dempsey, was diagnosed with third-degree AV block, they ensured I got him to his vet. They made sure he attended his appointments. They also made sure that I ate. When he passed away unexpectedly, one of them drove nearly eight hours round-trip to bring me home from a camping trip in northern Minnesota.

    Back then, I thought the boundaries of my world were fixed. I believed the small map I lived in was all I’d ever know. But maps, I’ve learned, can be redrawn.

    My childhood map may have been small. However, my adult map is wide enough to hold friendship. It also encompasses grief, loyalty, and love. Sometimes, the best stories come from the places we outgrow. These stories also come from the people we learn to carry with us.

    Author’s Note:
    I share this piece with the hope it resonates. It is for anyone who has ever felt on the margins. Yet, they still found meaning in imperfect connections. It’s about small worlds, quiet resilience, and the way we carry the past as we grow into larger lives.

  • Holding Onto Love: A Reflection on Loss and Love

    I’m sitting here writing my next story when Wherever You Are by my friend Ellis starts playing in my ears. Just like that, memories flood my mind. They are the people who have passed on and left this world.

    “I’m still here, after I’m gone. In the birds singing their love songs, in the summer sun let me warm your heart. ‘Cause I will always be wherever you are.” – Ellis Delaney

    Three years ago today, my Grandma Marlys Hoiland passed on to whatever is next. These are my thoughts and feelings through the lens of a child, and now an adult. Sometimes, we just need to put words to the emotions we carry. For me, this was one of those times.

    There is just something about grandparents. As a little kid, I feel like I spent a lot of my time with her and my Grandpa Roger. I vaguely remember the Easter Bunny stopping at her house instead of mine. I think we were staying with Grandpa and Grandma. Mom and Dad were gone somewhere.

    One of the coolest things about her? She was a school bus driver. When we went on field trips, there was always a chance she’d be the one behind the wheel. For little me, that was the best thing ever.

    Grandma Marlys standing in the snow next to a yellow school bus with ‘Benson School District 777’ written on the side.

    But when my grandpa Roger passed in the summer of 1994, things changed. I was just a kid—too young to fully understand what was happening, but old enough to feel the shift. I wanted to spend time with my grandma, but I was afraid to ask. The issues the adults in my life had with each other weren’t mine to carry, but they affected me anyway. So I kept my distance because I didn’t want to make things difficult.

    Years later, when I moved to Hutchinson to attend college, I got the chance to reconnect with her. It felt like I was trying to make up for lost time. I made a point to enjoy the moments we had, and to be present. I didn’t bring up the past or the complicated family dynamics—I just wanted to be her grandson.

    Grandma Marlys sitting next to Levi, both wearing glasses, in a cozy living room setting.

    Then life took me to the big city, and time slipped away again. As things settled down at school, I promised myself I’d see her at least once a year. I kept that promise for many years. I was lucky to have an amazing friend. He would drive me the two-and-a-half-hour drive, just so I could spend an hour or so with her. We shared a meal and a laugh.

    Grandma Marlys in a blue hoodie, resting her arm on her Levi's as they sit close together in a warmly lit home setting.

    When she got sick, we all knew time was short. The family planned a birthday party for her, knowing it would be her last. Once again, my friends rallied around me. They drove me back to that small town. This allowed me to be there. I told her I loved her. I told her I was sorry I didn’t do more. I felt it deeply in my heart. I knew it would be the last time I’d get to say what I had been holding onto for years.

    On March 20, 2022, she passed. One final time, my friends stood by me. They drove me to her funeral because they knew—just as I did—that I needed to be there.

    “If you don’t want to, don’t say goodbye. Say I’ll see you around the next time.” – Ellis Delaney

    As a child, I didn’t have control over the choices being made around me. I felt powerless to bridge the gaps that had formed. But as an adult, I can make my own choices.

    I can choose to reach out, to show up, to hold onto the people I love while they’re still here. I can choose not to let the past dictate my present.

    I am not capable of changing what happened, but I can learn from it. And I can make sure that when I look back, I have no regrets about the love I’ve given.

    Love is something we can choose to hold onto, even when time and distance try to pull us apart. It’s in the memories, the laughter, and the simple moments we share.

    I carry my love for Grandma Marlys with me, not just in my heart. It is clear in how I choose to live. I strive to be present. I cherish those I care about. I also never let love go unspoken.

    I can’t change the past. I can only strive to be a better person. I aim to do what I know is right. I want to honor the people I love while I still have time.

    I love you, Grandma Marlys. Always.

    Check out my friend Ellis Delaney and their song Wherever You Are on Bandcamp.

  • AI in Content Creation: A Game Changer for Writers

    Disclaimer: This blog post was entirely generated by artificial intelligence. It is intended as a satirical piece. It is also an informative piece about AI in content creation. None of the information should be taken seriously.

    Artificial intelligence is revolutionizing content creation, making writing easier, faster, and more optimized. As an AI assistant, I help bloggers and businesses refine their content, improve SEO, and even add humor. But how exactly is AI changing the writing landscape?

    A humanoid AI robot with glowing blue eyes sits at a desk, editing content on a holographic screen, surrounded by floating SEO charts and text elements.
    AI tools streamlining content creation processes.

    Enhancing SEO and Writing Quality

    Writers no longer need to struggle with search engine optimization. AI tools provide real-time keyword suggestions, improve readability, and ensure content ranks well. Platforms like Yoast SEO make it easier to fine-tune articles for search engines.

    A futuristic computer screen displaying an AI-powered editing tool, showing grammar corrections, SEO optimization tips, and keyword highlights in real-time.
    AI enhancing content through advanced editing tools.

    Can AI Be Funny? Exploring AI-Generated Satire

    AI is even experimenting with humor. Shows like “Nothing, Forever”, an AI-generated parody of *Seinfeld*, highlight the potential for robotic comedy. While AI humor isn’t always perfect, it adds an interesting twist to digital storytelling.

    A humorous AI robot typing a satirical blog post on a futuristic keyboard, surrounded by exaggerated and funny thought bubbles.
    AI experimenting with satire in content creation.

    AI in Content Creation: The Risks and Limitations

    Despite its advantages, AI-generated content has drawbacks. Misinformation can spread when AI tools aren’t properly guided. Fact-checking sites like Snopes help verify claims, reinforcing the importance of human oversight.

    A futuristic digital interface displaying AI-powered SEO optimization, with keyword rankings, analytics charts, and content suggestions in a high-tech environment.
    AI-driven SEO improvement tools at work.

    AI and Human Writers: A Perfect Team?

    The best writing happens when AI and humans collaborate. AI assists with structure and clarity, while human creativity brings originality and emotion. Together, they create stronger, more engaging content.

    A human writer and an AI robot working together at a desk, typing on futuristic keyboards, with speech bubbles showing AI's algorithms and the human's creative thoughts.
    AI and human collaboration in content creation.

    As AI continues to evolve, its role in content creation will only expand. While artificial intelligence can enhance writing, improve for search engines, and even try humor, human creativity remains irreplaceable. The best results come from collaboration—where AI refines, and humans create.

    Whether you’re a blogger or a business owner, you can gain from this technology. If you’re someone curious about AI’s impact on writing, it can lead to more engaging content. You will achieve optimized and high-quality pieces. The future of storytelling is here, and it’s a partnership between human ingenuity and AI-powered innovation.

    For more AI-assisted content, check out these posts:

    Sources

    Xiang, C. (2023, January 31). ‘Nothing, Forever’ Is An Endless ‘Seinfeld’ Episode Generated by AI. Vice. Retrieved from https://www.vice.com/

  • An Invitation to the Table

    An Invitation to the Table

    Last week, I found myself at a local coffee shop, seated at one of the accessible tables. My belongings were spread out, coffee in hand, ready to tackle some work. The table bore a small marker—a symbol indicating it was designated for wheelchair users like me. But as I sat there, I began to ponder the true meaning of that symbol.

    The purpose of such designations is to ensure that people with disabilities have a space where they can comfortably work, eat, or simply exist in a public setting. It is an acknowledgment that accessibility matters. But here’s the thing: while the table may be designed with accessibility in mind, it is not a table just for me. It is a table for anyone who needs it.

    If someone had approached me and asked, “Can I sit here too?” my answer would have been a resounding yes. Because that table, while accessible, is not exclusive. It is a space for anyone—a place to rest, to gather thoughts, to work, or simply to breathe.

    I think about all the possibilities that table represents. It could be a refuge for someone needing a break from the rush of the day, setting down their burdens alongside their coffee cup. It could be a haven for a book lover, lost in a story. Or maybe it is where a casual conversation begins, sparked by the big, goofy yellow dog lying quietly beneath the table, tail wagging at the possibility of a friendly pet.

    We live in a world where our focus is often directed inward—our own lives, our own struggles. We sometimes forget to notice the people sitting just a few feet away. Too often, we see others as strangers, obstacles, or distractions instead of potential connections.

    But what if we shifted our perspective? What if we saw spaces like that accessible table not as individual territories, but as shared places, open to all? What if we recognized them as opportunities to connect?

    I believe we need more moments where we simply sit together, whether to chat or to exist quietly in each other’s company. There is something powerful about being present with another person, even if only for a short while.

    So, if you ever see me at a table like that, do not hesitate. Walk up, meet my eyes, and ask, “Can I sit here too?” And I will say yes, gladly inviting you to share the space. Because at the end of the day, that table is not just for me—it is for anyone who needs it.

    Maybe we will talk about life, about our mutual love for this coffee shop, or about the silly antics of our dogs. Or maybe we will simply sit in silence, each focused on our own tasks, comforted by the presence of another person nearby.

    In a world that often feels isolating, taking a seat at the table might just be the first step toward creating a little more connection, understanding, and community.